Fingering is one of the best ways to pleasure a female-bodied person. It allows you to give them really targeted, focused stimulation, and can be one of the best ways to help her have an orgasm. Compared to oral sex or intercourse, it’s also relatively non-taxing for the giver. Here’s what you need to know to finger someone with a vulva. Make sure they’re on board Like any other sexual activity, step one is to make sure your partner enthusiastically consents. Attitude is everything when it comes to fingering. In particular, many women struggle to receive pleasure, and worry about their partner not enjoying the time and effort that fingering takes. If you’re a man, keep in mind that many women feel pressured to let vaginal intercourse be the main event, and erroneously believe that they should get the most pleasure from intercourse itself. Your partner may think of fingering as a “lesser than” activity. You can help set them at ease by letting them know you want to do it, and that you have all the time in the world. Focus on staying relaxed and genuinely enjoying yourself. They’ll notice it, I promise. Be prepared Wash your hands before touching their bare skin. You don’t want to run the risk of spreading germs to your partner’s body. It’s also important to have short, filed nails. Sharp nails or jagged hangnails can really ruin the mood. It’s also good to have an idea of what you’re going to be […]